If you're stuck in business, health, fitness, your relationships; find yourself self sabotaging; unable to move in the direction you want... know that it's NOT your fault.

The ego will always hold you back, even if you're aiming to move in a positive direction (i.e. improved health, new career, higher financial success etc.).

And it may seem counterintuitive, no? Why be held from achieving something that is desirable and health and life affirmative?

Because it's new. And new means uncertain and unpredictable. Just because the outcome sought is a good one, doesn't mean it doesn't present a very new reality with which one has to now engage with and navigate.

We always prefer the demons we know to the ones we don't.

The ego's job is actually quite simple: self preservation.

"I much rather stay in this poor, suboptimal situation and environment because it's KNOWN and FAMILIAR (i.e. I know what to expect) than to pursue a much better reality for myself since it presents unpredictable and unknown factors - at least HERE, bad as it is, I know I'm able to stay alive."

To add to that, BECAUSE it wants self preservation, and the ego's identity is wrapped up in the CURRENT reality, it much rather keep it that way, otherwise it risks "dying."

Understand this: in order to create your desired outcome, your identity has to first shift in order for you to be able to do so.

Otherwise, your ego, in maintaining its identity as it is NOW, will always sabotage your attempts at change simply because changing your external reality will imply a new identity that matches that reality, and the ego has no desire to die.

For example, if Tom is currently feeling lack and scarcity, the ego's identity is that of "poor," and he wants to create more wealth and abundance, it would imply that the wealth and abundance would create a new identity of "rich."

But that would mean "poor Tom" has to die, and THAT is what the ego will resist and subconsciously sabotage.

Tom has to first embody what wealth and abundance IS and feels like in order to be able to create it.

It's a simple analogy but can be applied to anything: health and wellness; career; love and partnership and so on.

The message is simple (though not necessarily easy): create change by implementing SMALL changes and shifts that don't overwhelm the ego, and find ways to create the feelings and sensations you wish to feel in the future with the goals you've set for yourself in your present reality.

Going back to our analogy:

Tom would have to find moments where he does feel wealthy and abundant currently, and sustain those for as long and as often as he can.

Consider your own goals and dreams, and think of how you can slowly start chipping away at them while BEING that 

person, and feeling those feelings, now. 

You'll see how much easier the path becomes :)